I am either losing my mind or I am a genius…

Tonight Hubs and I put the 3 older kids to bed at 7 like we always do. (the three of them are currently sharing a room since we are in a two bedroom house and are locked into a lease, if you remember when we made our big move out to Manitoba we didn’t have much for options and took the first house we got, which came though mere days before we left New Brunswick. Thankfully, they are big bedrooms.) Most nights they lie in their beds, talk and play and are asleep by 730-800. I can deal with it. They aren’t too loud, I don’t need to go in there three hundred times. We are all happy. BUT. The last few nights… gah… they yell, they scream, they jump around, they fight, they dance… they in general just go crazy. Hubs and I take turns going in there… Starting with gentle reminders to lie in bed, go to sleep… then escalating to raising our voices and yelling. Which we are trying really hard not to do. And for the most part we are doing great with our quest to not yell. But bedtimes were getting absurd. So tonight I decided to do something different.

Tonight when they started getting absurd we tried the gentle reminders. I could see us both getting really frustrated by 730 sensing we were in for another long night. So I went into their room. I turned their light on. I said ‘it’s not bedtime anymore. You guys are obviously not going to go to bed like I asked. Please get up and go play with your toys.’

They looked at me like I lost my mind. So did Hubs. He whispered to me that I was either really smart, or really crazy. The kids weren’t sure what to think. ‘Let’s go’ I prompted and ushered them out to the living room where I pulled out some cars and started playing. They looked scared. I was trying not to laugh.

At 800 Alex said ‘Mom, I think it’s bedtime. It’s dark and the clock is pointing at the 8’ I replied ‘Yep. The clock says it’s bedtime. But Mom says it’s not’ ‘You mean we don’t get bedtime tonight?’ ‘Nope. You guys can stay up all through the night’ Him and Nick looked devastated.

At 815 I turned off all the lights except a lamp. I sat on the couch with a couple books and started reading. Zoey came over and snuggled up to me to listen. Soon Alex and Nick came over too. After a couple stories Nick asked if he could go read them in his bed. Alex looked afraid of my answer. I told them yes. They could each bring two books into their beds. I brought them back to bed and tucked them in (it was about 840) I heard from them once since then.

I don’t think 700 is going to work as a bedtime anymore. I am going to push them to 730 tomorrow and see what happens. Maybe I’ll even get lucky and they will start consistently sleeping later then 7am. Then I can really call myself a genius. Right?

Love, hugs and more to come later
Lynn

An Update on the Orange Rhino

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At one time, I was posting weekly about my challenge with the Orange Rhino. (A no yelling for 365 days challenge… You can read about it here

Originally I was going to keep up the daily journal type entries, but I was finding it discouraging to have be writing out my failures. So I decided to stop writing them and just mark on the calender the days I made it through without yelling. It kept me accountable, but without making me feel like I was failing my monsters. 

Today I decided that I was going to write an update for two reasons. One- I don’t wan anyone to think that I gave up on the challenge. I am still going strong. And two- Because today I am proud of myself. Today is the first time I have made it to day 10. 

I cannot even count how many times I have started back at zero. In the two months since I started this challenge, the best I had been doing was 7 days (which I did twice, not counting this time!). Today is day 10. I hope tomorrow is day 11 without yelling/snapping. But only time will tell. 

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

The Orange Rhino ~ An Update

So, before I started getting ready to drive halfway across the country and then did the drive, I was keeping a daily log of how I was doing with the Orange Rhino Challenge.

Sadly, I stopped tracking it so I really don’t even know what my numbers might have been… According to my daily log that I was keeping, I made it to 4 days without yelling/snapping etc. Which is pretty good. I also know that I have been snapping less than I was before, and my kids seem to listen to me the first time I say something to them a little more often. 

I am going to re start my daily log now that I am home and getting settled and I am going to make a go at this. This month we are going to try and make a go of potty training and taking the pacifier away from Nick, so we will see how it all goes! 

I am going to start my daily logs tonight and post every Saturday with my weekly accomplishments and daily logs!

Love, hugs and more to come later! 
Lynn