My Fairy Tale

Almost 5 years ago I made a choice. I made a choice to leave everything and everyone I knew for a chance at a relationship with someone I was falling for. At first it was all sunshine and butterflies. But then real life set in and I didn’t think it was going to work. Things weren’t going as perfect as I thought they would. And I was ready to give up. Then I stumbled across this quote and everything changed.

It’s not about having the perfect relationship. It’s about having someone who will be there through everything without giving up.

When I first moved to NB to be with Hubs, I wasn’t working and he was only  required to go into work once a day to report in due to an injury. We were able to spend all our time together and things were going great. After a couple weeks, I found a job and he started working full time again.

My job required me to be at work from 4pm until 1am. Hubs was working 7am until 4pm. I seen him for about 30 minutes at lunchtime and that was it. He was sleeping when I got home and I was gone before he got home from work. My days off were Monday and Thursday. He had weekends off. We had a few hours on the weekend to spend together, but I was sleeping most of the morning away and then I needed to get ready for work. It sucked. I was in a new home, where I knew next to nobody and I couldn’t even spend anytime with the man I had moved here to be with.

We started arguing more. I was stressed and depressed and intentionally picking fights with him. I missed home. I missed my family. My friends. I told him that this wasn’t working. That I wasn’t happy. He asked why. After I explained it all, I went to work. I was planning on using my next pay check to get home. In my head, things were pretty much over. And it sucked. It hurt. I hated it. After about an hour I had to leave work. I had a wicked migraine. Hubs picked me up and put me to bed.

When I woke up later that night, he told me to quit my job. To him that was the biggest cause of how I was feeling. I wasn’t convinced. It felt wrong to sit at home all day while he worked. But he was right. I wanted our relationship to work, and we could live off what he made. So I agreed to give it a shot.

I spent my days being a house wife. I cooked. I cleaned. I baked. And I surfed the internet. There wasn’t much else to do. I was still stressed out that people were going to think that I was using him. Or worse, that he would think I was using him. (People did think I was using him. He and I got a fair share of comments from people, but that isn’t an important part of the story) I still entertained the thought of moving back home. And then I seen that quote.

It’s not about having the perfect relationship. It’s about having someone who will be there through everything without giving up.

And I realized that he was happy. And I could be happy. He didn’t resent me. Sure, it wasn’t what I had planned when I moved across the country to live with him, but he and I were both happy with each other. I planned on working and supporting myself, but in a way I was pulling my own weight with the cooking and cleaning I was doing. I was running our house while he worked. I wasn’t sitting around. Sure it wasn’t perfect, but why give up over something that is clearly not a  problem to him?anniversary

We went on to plan our wedding. When we started planning our wedding it was going rough. We agreed to have our wedding in Winnipeg but when we announced the date to his family (along with the location) we received a lot of criticism. In the end, we eloped. We were supposed to elope April 1st, but since Hubs couldn’t take any leave until the first we moved it to April 2nd. And it was perfect. It was us.

Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, Love gives you a fairy tale

Now we have been married for four years. It has been the most exciting, insane, stressful, chaotic, four years ever. Four years seems like such a small amount of time. And yet, it seems like the longest four years ever.

In the last four years Hubs and I have had our ups and downs. He has stood by me through everything. He has stood next to me through hormonal pregnancies, labors and deliveries, postpartum depression and anxiety, not getting enough coffee, money troubles, health issues, long nights, crying babies, crying me, snow storms, black outs, sickness, health, good times, bad times, and every other thing that has come our way. The only words I know to thank him for all he is and all he has done are ‘I love you’. And I do. I love him from now until eternity. There is no one else on Earth I love the way I love the man I married.

Our relationship isn’t perfect. I don’t imagine it ever will be. But neither of us is giving up. And we are both giving 100% of what we are to it. At the end of each day I know I can count on Hubs, and I know that he knows he can count on me.

It’s been four years, and we’ve come a long way. I can’t wait to see where our journey takes us next.

Love, hugs and more to come later!

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