We are a couple days into the new year, and I have been thinking about this post for a few days. I know I want to write about my resolutions, but before I could do that, I needed to cement them into exactly what I wanted them to be. I knew I wanted 2014 to be a better, healthier year. But I needed to know what that meant to me. I needed to define what a ‘better, healthier year’ really meant. So I have separated my resolutions into the three parts of who I am. As a wife, as a mom, and as me. All my resolutions go hand in hand.
As a wife.
The first thing I did when I decided I wanted a better year was sit down and talk to Hubs about what we had done in the last year and what we wanted to do in the next year. We knew there were two loans we could realistically pay off. And we knew we wanted to get out west to visit my family at least once, preferably twice. This meant looking at our budget. I used our bank to see where our money was going. I have always prided myself on being able to grocery shop for my family on a small budget, so I figured our grocery number was going to be relatively low, but what I wasn’t expecting… Our restaurant/fast food/coffee shop number was higher then my groceries. For all the money we spent on Food & Dining, only 41.2% was groceries. This was a wake up call. So Hubs and I decided to go cold turkey and cut out ALL eating out/fast food and limit ourselves to 1 coffee from a coffee shop each week (this is to cover my coffee nights and allow him to enjoy a coffee with the guys at work once a week)
Once we decided to cut out all eating out/ordering in, it meant that I NEEDED to be responsible for cooking 3 meals a day, 7 days a week. (I don’t want to imply that Hub’s doesn’t cook, he does. On average while he is working, he will cook 3-4 meals a week whether it’s breakfast, lunch or supper) I knew I wanted to make sure that I was getting a good well rounded supper on the table everyday. Sometimes this is hard when I am dealing with 3 kids and Hubs isn’t home. I find myself resorting to ordering in, or putting something fast together that is nutritionally lacking. So I decided that I am going to try freezer cooking. (I will write a post about this later)
Hubs is going back to work from parental in February. It’s going to be different not having him helping out as much with the kids and the housework. So I felt that I needed a good plan to be able to take over everything and not make him feel like he needs to do things when he comes home from work. I want to insert here that my husband does help out around the house. He has his own chores. However, I feel that it is my responsibility as his wife to clean the house, cook the meals and do the laundry. I like to do these things, and I know he appreciates not having to worry about having clothes for work, or what he is going to be eating for supper when he has worked all day. I choose to do these things. To help me balance my time between cleaning, caring for the kids and not feeling overwhelmed or falling into a rut I chose to do up a routine for the kids and I.
As a Mom.
As a mom I knew I wanted to spend more time with the kids happy and less time stressed about anything. I want my time with the kids to be positive. I want to continue on my quest to yell less. I feel like I am becoming a better person for it.
I am implementing a new routine to help me balance the cleaning with the kids. I am cutting down on their and my screen time. I have a habit of being busy doing something else while they are eating so I will let them have breakfast or lunch watching TV so I have more time to get the things done I need to do. I have decided to stop this. I am going to have them sitting at the table, with me.
The kids don’t really eat lunch, they snack throughout the day. The reason for this is that they nap/rest from 11-1, so when they wake up they are too hungry to wait for me to cook anything and I am often busy with Zoey or cleaning while they are napping so I end up just giving them something quick. I am going to change this. I am going to have lunch ready for them when they wake up from their naps.
All of the goals I have listed so far are for me. But these ones are more for me then anyone else. I want to be more organized. I want to think less about my weight and how I look. I want to set a good example for my kids. This post here that I found through another blog (here) is a perfect example of what I want my kids to learn. I want to eat healthier, for me, this means actually eating three meals a day and drinking my 8 glasses of water a day. Everyday. Not some days. I want to continue to overcome the anxiety that still overcomes me.
My goals seem like a lot, but they are all intertwined into wanting a better, healthier year. This is what a better, healthier year means to me. I am hoping that since I have taken the time to write all this out, I will be more accountable for my resolutions and I will be able to implement the changes I need to. It won’t all be easy, but each small change is a step in the right direction!
Love, Hugs and more to come later!