T’s Birth Story


When T was 36 weeks pregnant it was discovered that her blood pressure was high, as far as I could tell, no one was too worried, but it was taken note of. At her 37 week check up her blood pressure was still up and proteins were found in her urine. Due to this, more testing was ordered and she needed to do a 24 hour urine collection and some blood work. At her 38 week check up she was told that the results were not good. It was recommended that she receive a stretch and sweep to try and start up her labor (for anyone who isn’t sure, this means they stretch the cervix as well as do a membrane sweep) and she was told that Baby L was going to be induced the following Tuesday (Sept. 17) and would most definitely be delivered by Thursday (Sept 19).

On Saturday September 14, T asked me to come and sit with her at her house. She was getting back pains, her tummy was tightening and she was losing her mucus plug. But she swore she wasn’t in labor and Baby L wasn’t coming yet. I got to her house around 9 AM. I started timing her contractions for her and they were averaging about 7 minutes apart. Throughout the day, we chatted, watched movies, stalked yummy things on Pinterest and walked in an effort to get her labor going.

Around 1 PM T’s contractions were closer to 5 minutes apart and her back was starting to really hurt her, we alternated resting and walking as much as she was comfortable. By 5 PM her contractions were closer to 4 minutes apart but she didn’t feel she needed to go in for pain, so we continued to wait it out, and did some more walking around the block.

By 7:30 PM her contractions were coming steady about 3-4 minutes apart and lasting about 45 seconds. T was uncomfortable, but was still insistent she wasn’t ready to go in. At 7:50 PM she said she would probably go in, in about an hour. A couple minutes after 8 T stated she was starting to get a headache which was one of those things we were suppose to watch for and call in about because of her blood pressure. After calling the Labor and Delivery unit at the hospital T was asked to come in, so Mr. T got everything ready and we loaded up to go.

When we arrived at the hospital, T had her blood pressure taken as well as some blood drawn to be tested. After being monitored for a little while it was decided that T needed to have Baby L right away, and since her body had already started the process, it made sense to help it along.

T was started on Magnesium Sulfate (to help prevent seizures with her high blood pressure) and Oxytocin to help strengthen the contractions. (her contractions were regular, but not very strong)

I am going to include here, although we found this out later that T had been diagnosed with Toxemia, also known as pre-eclampsia. 

Pre-eclampsia or preeclampsia is a medical condition characterized by high blood pressure and significant amounts of protein in the urine of a pregnant woman. If left untreated, it can develop into eclampsia, the life-threatening occurrence of seizures during pregnancy.
There are many different causes for the condition. It appears likely that there are substances from the placenta that
can cause endothelial dysfunction in the maternal blood vessels of susceptible women.
While blood pressure elevation is the most visible sign of the disease, it involves generalised damage to the maternal endothelium, kidneys, and liver, with the release of vasoconstrictive factors being a consequence of the original damage.
An outdated medical term for pre-eclampsia is toxemia of pregnancy, since it was thought that the condition was caused by toxins.
Pre-eclampsia may develop at any time after 20 weeks of gestation. Pre-eclampsia before 32 weeks is considered early onset, and is associated with increased morbidity. Its progress differs among patients; most cases are diagnosed before labor typically would begin. Pre-eclampsia may also occur up to six weeks after delivery. Apart from Caesarean section and induction of labor (and therefore delivery of the placenta), there is no known cure. It is the most common of the dangerous pregnancy complications; it may affect both the mother and fetus. (Taken from Wikipedia)

Unfortunately T was unable to walk any longer once everything was started as her urine output needed to be monitored and had to have the toxins measured constantly, which meant there needed to be a catheter in place. I don’t think T minded too much though to be honest. Seeing as whenever I suggested walking to her while we were still at home, I was met with resistance and needed a cattle prod to get her up and moving. 😉

After being on the oxytocin for a little while T’s contractions were getting stronger and stronger. At about 11:30 PM breathing through them just wasn’t cutting it anymore and she requested an epidural. (The epidural had been discussed earlier with the OB on call, and it was suggested that she get it. The logic behind the recommendation was the epidural would reduce some of the pain which could keep her blood pressure a little lower) At 12:30 AM the anesthesiologist arrived to give T the epidural and I was kicked out of the room.

A little before 1 AM I was allowed back into the room while T waited for her epidural to take effect. Unfortunately it didn’t work out the first time, but after some adjustments T was able to get through the contractions a little easier. By 1:45 I was absolutely exhausted and couldn’t even stand anymore. T was checked at this time and was 5 cm dilated so I curled up and closed my eyes for a little while.  I got up again at 2:15. T was insistent that no one remind her to breath anymore (I guess the constant reminders were getting annoying, but if she hadn’t been constantly holding her breath….) And since she was feeling a lot of pressure and wanted to push the nurse checked her again. 10 CM!!!! We were ready to get the show on the road.

T started pushing at 2:20 AM. Baby L was born at 3:32 AM. A lot happened in that time frame, and I really don’t remember the times anything happened, just the order.

-I needed to walk out for a couple minutes. I was silly and hadn’t had anything to drink since suppertime and I was a little lightheaded after sleeping. Once I had some orange juice, I was fine! (I only missed about 5 minutes)

-Mr T was staying up near T’s head. Until I could see Baby L’s hair. Then he wanted to see too. What an amazing thing.

-T was tired and just wanted a nap. Thanks to an amazing nurse, T was given the encouragement she needed to keep pushing.

-When Baby L crowned, T was more then ready to get him out. When he was crowned the nurse had me push the call button to alert the OB to get into the room to deliver. T didn’t want to wait. She used her anger and was pushing. The nurse was holding Baby L in so T didn’t push him right out with no one to catch him!  The best line from T all night was easily when she was told to stop pushing until the OB came in ‘Get the f*ck in here, I am pushing him out!’

-The OB barely caught Baby L. I was a little worried.

-I will never forget the look of absolute shock and amazement on  T and Mr. T’s faces when the baby was placed on T. I am sure it is the same look all new mom’s and dad’s have. But since in all my experiences, I have been the mom, it was an amazing thing to see. I wish I’d had a camera to capture it. But T said no pictures!

Baby L is absolutely perfect. I cannot get over how small he is. After he was born, both T and Mr. T were given some skin to skin time. T started breastfeeding him within an hour of giving birth. After he was weighed and swaddled he was moved to the NICU for observation (because of the magnesium sulfate) but T was promised that he would be brought to her for his feedings and whenever she wanted him.

T was kept in labor and delivery and wasn’t allowed visitors for the first day after having Baby L. Unfortunately her blood pressure was still a little high and she needed to be monitored. She was also sent for an EKG and a chest x-ray.

Today, while I am finishing up this account, T’s milk has come in. She is having success with breastfeeding Baby L, but has said she would be struggling if not for the help of Mr. T. She and Baby L are home now and doing great.

Thank you so much to T and Mr T for allowing me to be a part of something so amazing. It was an experience I will never forget. You guys are going to be amazing parents! I can’t wait to get to know Baby L. Also, Alex sends hugs. 

Love, hugs and more to come later!


The Case of the Missing Frog – Conclusion

A little while ago I wrote about how one of the kids three frogs had disappeared. If you missed it, you can read about it here.  

Well, I am happy to say, we found the missing frog. But only because now I’m not scared of picking something up and finding him underneath. 

We are going to call the missing frog #2 and the lone remaining frog in the tank #3. Just so this story is easier to tell. 

So I was watching #3 swim around in the tank. He was acting a little weird with his swimming, but I didn’t think too much of it. I got up to go make lunch and when I came back, #3 was dead. It was the weirdest thing. So I mentioned it to Hubs. Because, I mean, I was JUST watching him swim twenty minutes earlier. 

Hubs came over and removed #3 from the tank. Since (as far as we knew) there weren’t anymore frogs in the tank, we decided to clean it out. Assuming that it must have been something we did causing the frogs to die. 

So in our tank, there is a castle. What we didn’t know when we bought the castle was that there was a hole inside of it going up to one of the towers. When hubs lifted the castle it fell and banged into the bottom of the tank… there was frog #2. 

As far as we can tell it got stuck up there, couldn’t get out to breath, died, and the toxins from that killed #3.

Huh. I have never had this problem with goldfish. Now the tank is cleaned out. And we are going to go into town tomorrow and get the kids some nice, simple goldfish. 

Alex has noticed that the tank is empty and asked where his frogs went. Not an easy conversation to have with a 2 yr old. I decided to keep it simple and tell him that the frogs had to go away.His reply ‘Oh. In P’s (T’s husbands) car?’ (Anytime T is visiting us and her hubs comes to get her, Alex gets upset and says he took her away in his car and we need to go find her. Then when we go out, he watches for a white car and says that we have to get it, Alex is a silly little boy)

Not quite little buddy, but this momma is ready to discuss death. There will be time for that. Lots and lots of time for that. 

How old is an acceptable age to discuss death? Or how old were your kids? 

An Amazing and Exciting Thing Has Happened!!

Oh my gosh Everyone!!! I am so incredibly excited this morning! Exhausted, but so so so excited!!!! 



T HAD HER BABY!!!!!!!!! That doesn’t even come close to the excitement and amazement I feel right now. T had a healthy, adorable little boy at 3:32 this morning (September 15) weighing 7 lbs and 12 oz. T was a superstar and did incredible, and Mr T was just as awesome! (as well as her nurses and Dr!)  Her birth story is coming, but since I just spent 24 hours away from my family and left hubs with the kids, the plan is to devote today to them. But I will start it when they are in bed and share it with you in the next couple days. I can’t wait to write it! 

To T and Mr T, Thank you guys for letting me share this amazing experience. Baby L is absolutely amazing. Welcome to parenthood. I love you both!

Love, hugs and more to come later, 


Being a Kid

I love being a kid with my kids 🙂 It’s so much fun. I mean, who doesn’t want to play play doh and in the mud and finger paint and make a mess?

Yesterday the kids figured out how to lie the wrong way on the couch. (Lying on the couch with their backs where their bums should be, and legs going up the back of the couch where their backs should be) Talk about fun kicking the back of the couch!! ‘Momma, you try too?’ Alex says ‘Mom mom mom’ says Nick. How can I say no? 

So I contort myself to fit on the couch in their awkward position and lie next to them. 


The pictures are a little blurry, but they were taking on a cell phone, and we have the memory, which is all that matters! 🙂 

On another note… see that big heaping full bin of clothes in the background? Those are all clothes the kids have outgrown, and I am not done going through all the clothes yet. CRAZY! I can’t believe how much they have all grown! I found an amazing website though, which I would like to share with my Canadian followers. It is PerfectThreads.ca. The way is works is they send you some bags (free of charge) that you can fill up with the good condition clothes that your kids have outgrown. When they are full, UPS will pick them up from you (free of charge again) and bring them back to the warehouse. Once the clothes have been sorted, you will earn a credit for the clothes you have sent in, that you can then use towards getting new kids clothes off their website! Seems like a pretty great way of changing out the kids wardrobes to me! Right now I am waiting for the bags to be sent to me. I’ll keep everyone posted on the experience I have with this website. I am looking forward to being able to ‘trade in’ the kids clothes for clothes that are going to fit them! 


Love, hugs and more to come later!


An Amazing and Exciting Thing is Going to Happen

I have known about this amazing and exciting thing for a couple weeks. I just haven’t taken the time to write up a post about it yet! **Drum Roll**


I am going to have a fourth birth story to write soon!!!! That’s right! T (you may remember her from my posts ‘Supporting T‘ focusing on supporting a breastfeeding Mom) is going to be having her baby at the end of this month and she has asked me to be one of her support people when she goes into labor! And more then that, she has given me permission to blog anything I want about the experience! Isn’t she awesome!?! (wait… you weren’t thinking that I was pregnant and going to be telling a birth story about me in labor again were you? 🙂 ) 

So of course, I am super excited to have this experience with her. It is an amazing honor that she trusts me enough to be there for her, and feels that I am going to be an asset to her experience. And of course, I am very excited to get to experience birth from the other side. Not to mention, getting to meet Baby L before the rest of the world. Eee! 

T and I have had a couple very good conversations about what she wants/needs from me as one of her support people, and how I can also support Mr. T. I feel very confident that I am going to be what T and her hubs need, and I hope that I can help contribute to a positive and happy experience. 

To T, I want you to know, that I am going to do everything I can to make this a positive empowering experience for you. Remember, the pain is natural, and your body knows what it’s doing! Soon, you and Mr. T are going to be holding Baby L and all this icky pregnancy business will be behind you. You’re strong, brave and awesome! 

Love, hugs and more to come later!


Did you plan this?!?

Tonight I cooked up the kids favorite foods for supper. I had some mommy guilt because I have been so busy with my fall cleaning (kind of like spring cleaning, but in the fall so I can go through clothes before fall/winter and toys before Christmas) the last three years I have had a newborn or been super pregnant in the spring so I have started the habit of doing it in the fall instead. 

So anyways… I make them their favorite (healthy) supper. I make some pork chops in a mushroom sauce, rice, and broccoli (Alex’s favorite veggie) and carrots (Nick’s favorite) thinking they would love it. 

Well. They showed me. They both ate the rice. And asked for more rice. And more after that. But (and this was almost simultaneously) they both put a piece of pork in their mouths, spit it out and told me it was icky. Same with the veggies. 

What the hell guys. Seriously. I took extra time tonight to make you guys a nice supper with your favorite foods even though I was exhausted and sore and this is the reaction I get. (I didn’t say this. I thought it. But I knew I shouldn’t say it. They can smell when I am frustrated.)

So I said to Alex: ‘You like broccoli. You were asking for it yesterday.’ (We had pancakes for supper yesterday, and when I asked him what kind of fruit he wanted, he said broccoli) 

His reply: ‘No Momma. Bwakey yucky’ 

I quit. 


Love, hugs, and more to come later


The Case of the Missing Frog

A couple weeks back, Hubs and I took the kids to the pet store to get them some goldfish. How exactly we ended up bringing home 3 African Dwarf Frogs, I’ll never 100% understand. But the kids seen them, the lady at the store convinced us they were just as easy as goldfish, and we bought them. 

Now, I must admit, they are as easy as goldfish. If not easier. They are fully aquatic, just going up to the surface to breath. And they only eat every three days. And the kids love them. So it’s a win win. 



At least it seemed like a win win. Until two of the frogs decided to fight and one ended up floating on it’s back. /sigh/ I felt the kids were far to young to even discuss death, so we quietly took the frog out and disposed of him. Alex is the only one who can count, and since the frogs move, he couldn’t count them properly anyways.  He thinks there are 11 in the tank. We have only ever had 3. 

A couple hours after Hubs took the dead frog out, I was looking in the tank. And I only seen one frog. What the hell? There should be two… But there was one. No body floating, just one frog swimming around… I called hubs over and he moved all the pebbles around, checked the filter (morbid, yes. But I wanted to find it) It wasn’t anywhere. We never found it. I checked Google. Turns out, these frogs try to jump out of the tank. (We have a cover on it, but it was off while hubs was dealing with the incident) I looked all around the tank, under the table, etc. I didn’t see it. Google tells me they can hop around for 15 minutes out of the water before they start drying up. I’ve cleaned the house, I can’t find it. I am scared that 1 of a couple things might happen: 1- I am going to find it when I least except it and lose my mind 2- one of the kids are going to find it and think it is candy or some other random thing (Why oh why did I think it was a good idea to let them have gummy frogs!?!) 3- the kids are going to find it and play with it (preferable to them eating it) or 4- we are never going to find it. Oh how I hope we find it so I can stop living in fear of finding it somewhere I don’t want to. Like my kids mouth. Ick. Next time, we are getting goldfish. No discussion. 

Love, hugs and more to come later.