I’ve been convinced. Swayed. Brought to the reusable side.

After talking to mamaturtlemiller about cloth diapering. I have decided that maybe it isn’t as hard as I have always made it out to be in my mind. 

When I was pregnant with Alex, I researched both cloth and disposable diapers. I opted to use disposables because we lived in an apartment, and I paid $1.50 to wash a load and $1.75 to dry a load. And that was in a communal laundry room. It didn’t seem like the best idea to wash something that was going to be against my baby’s little bum in a machine like that. 

When I was pregnant with Nick, we were living in a house, with our own brand new washer and dryer. I had no reason not to switch. I just didn’t. I was using disposables with Alex, and it was working for us. Same with when I had Zoey. I never really revisited the whole idea of using cloth. 

Until last night. Last night, I was given a couple links, did some research and decided that I was going to give it a shot. I am going to start part time with 1-2 diapers/day/child. I figured out that by using 1 cloth diaper for each child each day saves me $25 CDN a month. $25!! That doesn’t seem like much, but that’s almost a whole box of diapers! A MONTH!! And Alex is almost potty trained. The savings are only going to grow!! WHY DIDN’T I THINK OF THIS EARLIER??? mamaturtlemiller Where have you been all my Momma life?!?

I’m going to start collecting some cloth diapers and I want to start up by the end of August! Wish me luck! There will be more posts about this journey in the future!

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

Modern Man of the Cloth Geekery Awards

This award is probably one of the best I have ever gotten. It could be, that it came at the perfect time. I read that I had received it when I was at a low point of wondering if my blog was actually reaching out to anyone. If I would actually affect anyone the way that I hoped to. If I could actually help me a change in the way people think about Postpartum depression and anxiety, if I could show other mom’s that we should support each other and we don’t need to bash on one another. 

Then I seen that I was nominated for the Gandalf the Gray award as part of the Modern Man of the Cloth Geekery Awards. This made my day. My week even.

The Gandalf the Gray award is given “When you make a point your arguments are so thought out and so persuasive no counter argument can stand.” 

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It was exactly what I needed at that moment. And for that I want to send a huge heartfelt thank you to How to Ruin a Toddler’s Day for this!

So onto the rules for this award: 

  1. Like I tell my children you should always say thank you
  2. Please link back to the post that gave you your award
  3. If you won any of these awards you can pass along any of these made up, but still real, awards to someone else. Or can create your own awards to tell someone how awesome you think they are.
  4. Tell us 58 random things about you and 41 things that that make you interesting**

** Not a real rule. (thankfully!) 

Now, I am not creative enough to make up my own awards, so I am just going to pass along the ones that Man of the Modern Cloth and How to Ruin a Toddler’s day used. Here we go!

1. The Optimus Prime Award- Your blog is so inspiring I just want to ‘transform, roll out’ and follow you. I am sending this award out to A Game of Diapers!

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2. The Gandalf the Gray Award– When you make a point your arguments are so thought out and so persuasive no counter argument can stand. I would like to award this to Mommy flying Solo.

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 3. The ‘This is Sparta’ Award– Everything you say is powerful and strong. Agree or disagree I find your passion and convictions so inspiring. I would like to award this to Atlanta Mom of Three.

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4. The Joker Award- Your humour is infectious, and maybe even a little dark. Your posts have made me laugh out loud almost every time. I would like to give this award to Broken Condoms

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I left one out from the original post. I really don’t have a blog that I follow that fits in that category. Thanks again to How to Ruin a Toddler’s Day. You definitely made my day!!

Love, hugs, and more to come later!

Lynn

Why you shouldn’t put your cell phone in your bra

I learned a very valuable lesson today. In fact, potentially it could’ve saved me lots and lots of money. 

I have a habit of putting my cell phone in my bra. I put it there because it is easy to get to it. When it vibrates, I can grab it even if I have kids on my lap and what not. Regardless of what I am doing it’s easy to get to it, and I don’t miss it when it vibrates. So I stick it there. Especially when I am waiting for a text from someone. 

So tonight, I had my phone there while I was waiting for my brother to text me to get a ride home from his girlfriend’s house. I made supper with it there. I ate, and then I got ready to bathe the boys. I’m sure you all know where this is going. 

I turn on the bathtub, and turn around and get the kids undressed. I pick Nick up to put him in the tub, and along with him, plop goes my cellphone. SH*T!!

I get my phone out as fast as I can, I wrap it in a towel for the time being and get Alex in the tub. Once both the kids were in, I took my phone apart, it didn’t seem to wet, so I put it back together. It turned on. Yay me! 

So… I put it back in my bra. Ha ha. Sometimes I am a little slow. 

About an hour later I pull out my phone to see why my brother hasn’t texted me.. it’s off. I guess there was more water in it then I thought. So now it’s apart and in rice. Here’s hoping it turns back on tomorrow. I guess I need a new place to put my phone… maybe in my pocket?

Love, hugs, and more to come later!

Lynn

Sharing is Caring

I am always encouraging my kids to share. And I feel like I am always reminding them. Which is why things like this warm my heart: 

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Yep. This is Nick sharing his sucker with Zoey. And when he decided he didn’t want to share anymore: 

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He gave her back her soother that he had actually taken out of her mouth to share the sucker. 

Love these kids to the moon and back. 

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

Following the Trends

I am not usually a trend follower. But since I am learning the world of Blogging, I have decided to jump on this bandwagon. Assuming I figure it all out effectively and don’t lose my mind every single time I attempt to use it.

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I Googled Twitter pictures to find one that I wanted to include here, and fell in love with this one since Nick just started do this and laughing hysterically!

That’s right folks. I am going to follow in How to Ruin a Toddler’s Day’s footsteps and join Twitter. (seriously if you don’t follow her blog yet, you really should, she is absolutely amazing, and always makes me smile!) She also has a Facebook for her blog, but I don’t think I have the time or energy for such things right now. We’ll see how the Twitter thing goes first.

So there is a fancy button to the right of this post that should say you can follow me on Twitter… but there might not be, because I am not actually sure I managed to do it right. If it’s not there, let me know and I’ll try some more to fix it. If it is there, also let me know and I can stop thinking about it.

I used to think I knew how all this stuff works.. I mean I am the one who taught my mom how to upload pictures to Facebook… but Twitter… Twitter eludes me. We’ll see how it all goes!

So anyways, follow me on Twitter and I will follow you back! (assuming I can figure out how to!)

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

Super Sweet Blog Award

More awards! What an awesome feeling! This one is the Super Sweet Blog Award and I was nominated by 2 wonderful ladies! Thank you so much Vanessa from Pink Butterflies and Tara from Working Mother Assistant. I strongly urge everyone to go check out their blogs!
I love these awards because I love being able to find new blogs through nominee lists. There are some great blogs out there just waiting to be discovered! 

So the rules for this Super Sweet Award are: 

  • Thank and link to the Blogger who nominated you.
  • Answer 5 Super Sweet Questions. See below…
  • Include the Super Sweet Blogging Award in your post.
  • Nominate a baker’s dozen (13) other deserving Bloggers.
  • Notify your Super Sweet Nominees on their Blog.

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Here are my answers: 

1. Cookies or Cake?

Cookies. I am definitely not a cake person

2. Chocolate or Vanilla?

Depends what it is. Normally Vanilla. 

3. Favourite sweet treat?

Hmm.. I am not a huge fan of sweets. So this is actually a tough one! I would have to say chocolate chip cookies or peanut butter cookies. 

4. When do you crave sweet things the most?

When I am pregnant

5. Sweet nickname?

I don’t have a sweet nickname that anyone calls me, and I really don’t use any sweet nicknames either. I call the boys my sweets when they are super cuddly, but that’s about it.

And now my nominees, I chose these people because they are blogs I enjoy reading, and they all show a sweet side in various ways! 

A Game of Diapers
Beauty Obsessed
Broken Condoms
BumpyroadtoBubba
Domestic Geek Girl
Embracing the Insanity
Fat Mom No More
Living like an Erythrocyte
Lessons From My Daughter
Mama Miller Parenting
McCrazy Daily Lessons
Naptime Thoughts
Persephone Parent

Go check out some awesome blogs that I enjoy, written by some very awesome people! Thank you again to the two lovely ladies who nominated me! 

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

The Mommy Wars

I am very happy to say that today I noticed that my guest post was published on End the Mommy Wars blog. You can read my story on potty training here.

There is a reason that ending the mommy wars and stopping moms passing judgement on one another is very important.  There is a reason that I needed to sign the Mom Pledge.

I’ve never really explained my reasons. But today I am going to. Not because I feel like I need to defend myself. But because I want to.

I have stated in the past that I have been judged for my choices as a Mom. And I have stated before that I dealt with Postpartum depression and Anxiety after each of my children were born. It wasn’t bad after Alex and it hasn’t been too bad since having Zoey. But after Nick it was bad. Really super bad. I didn’t bond very well with him at first. Looking at us today you wouldn’t know that. But it has affected all the relationships in my household.

My husband bonded more with Nick than he did with the other kids, because he was making up for my lack of interest in him. I was more than willing to pass off all the feedings, diapers etc to him. I didn’t want to do any of that. If Alex needed me, I was there, if Nick needed me… it was harder to want to be there. I was still there. I tended to his needs. But there wasn’t the same emotional attachment to him. This affected how Hubs bonded to Zoey. Because I didn’t have the same problems bonding to her, he wasn’t as hands on with her and felt as though he wasn’t bonding to her at all. Thankfully, after him and I discussing this, he has realized this isn’t the case, he loves his little girl as much as he loves his little boys. I have no doubts about that.

When I decided to get pregnant with Zoey, the troubles I had with Nick played a big factor in that decision. I didn’t want to have another baby if I was going to have a hard time bonding to him/her. That wouldn’t be fair to me, the baby, the boys, or my husband. So I did some serious thinking about what contributed to those feelings. I figured it out pretty quick.

I realized that when I got pregnant with Nick, there were a lot of people who made negative comments and criticized that I would even keep the baby. (I know right.. imagine having someone tell you that you should’ve aborted your baby because your kids were to close together. Talk about mind boggling) There were comments about how I was being unfair to Alex by having another baby so soon. There were people who told me it was so so so hard and I would struggle with it. So few people said to me ‘You’re a good mom. You can so this. It’ll be tough, but you’ll figure it out’ The majority of it was ‘omg, you’re crazy.’  So I knew that I needed to get those people out of my life.

After I got the obviously negative people out, that left the more subtle people. Those people were harder to weed out. But by the time I had Zoey I had gotten rid of them. And you know what? My postpartum issues, were so so so minimal compared to what they were after Nick.

Part of me wishes that I could go back and not have the issues I did after I had Nick. But a bigger part of me cherishes the fact that I was able to build a strong bind with him in spite of our rough start. When his first word was Momma, my heart melted. And I am glad that those experiences gave me the voice I need to tell those negative people to shut up. I sincerely hope that my story can help even one mom not feel so alone. And realize that there are people out there who don’t just want to judge. I may not be the perfect mom, but I am perfect for my kids.

I encourage everyone to take the Mom Pledge and support one another instead of judging one another.

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

Christmas in July

On Saturday the kids, hubs and I went out to where my parents camp to celebrate Christmas in July.

The way it works is:

people decorate their campsites, for most people this means they put out a blow up santa, or hang some garland, but my parents tend to go all out:

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There is a horse drawn sleigh ride (the sleigh is on wheels since there is no snow for the sleigh. But they still call it a sleigh ride)

There is a Santa Claus parade. This consists of Santa being pulled in the ‘sleigh’ while children ride their decorated bikes behind him and some parents push their strollers. (Overall a dusty mess since the roads aren’t paved and that many bikes going through does more than it’s part stirring up the dust) We sat this out as I wasn’t in the mood to cough and gag while walking behind a bunch of bikes and then fighting for a seat.

After the parade everyone gathers at the stage where Santa passes out presents. (These are bought and wrapped by the parents, dropped off at a specified place and then delivered to the stage during the parade.) My mom bought my kids their gifts from Santa. Since it is JULY she didn’t go all out. She bought the boys each a truck and got Zoey a stuffed pink hamster. Someone bought their kid a bike. Yep that’s right, Santa at the campground brought her a bike. Alex noticed the bike (of course) and said ‘Look Momma, Santa brought a bike! Bike for Alex?’ in my head I replied with ‘nope, sorry kid Santa doesn’t love you that much’ But out loud, since I didn’t want to dash my two year olds hopes and dreams, I said ‘I don’t think that bike is for you bud, it’s too big and you have a Thomas bike already!’ Crisis averted.

I was a little worried for when Santa called the kids names. Alex has been TERRIFIED of Santa every single time I have ever tried to bring him to see him. But I figured we would give it a go anyways. It was successful! There were no tears from anyone! Yay!

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We all had a great time, and after the kids got their presents from Santa we went back to Mom and Dad’s site and enjoyed a delicious BBQ before heading back to the city. Since the kids all have colds, I wasn’t on board for camping with my parents for the night. After we got the kids home and in bed, they slept. All night. Zoey woke up at midnight and 5 am for bottles, then they all slept until 7 am. Except me. I slept until after 9.  (Although I use the term sleep loosely since I had 2 little boys jumping on me intermittently)

Merry Christmas in July!

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

The Orange Rhino ~ July 21-27

I mentioned to my husband and my brothers that I was starting this challenge and they were shocked that I would be doing it. They all told me that I rarely ever snap at the kids, and they think I do a pretty good job at keeping my cool even when they are being little monsters (I say this with love) My brother later told me that my explanation was pretty awesome so I decided that I was going to share (an almost verbatim) account of what I said ‘I know I don’t yell much. And it takes a lot for me to snap at the kids. But, even if I only snap once a day, once a week , or once a month am I being fair to them? Why am I snapping? Is it legitimately something they are doing? Or is it because I am in a b*tch mood? And if it’s only because I am in a b*tch mood doesn’t that make it even worse? I don’t want my kids to feel afraid to come talk to me about anything because they aren’t sure if I am going to snap. I want to foster good communication with them, I want them to trust that they can talk to me. And right now I feel that if I can snap less and make myself seem more welcoming to them and their ideas/opinions (even if I am getting annoyed because they are repeating the same thing over and over and over) I can achieve that. Maybe I don’t snap a lot, but how much is too much before they stop wanting to talk to me about things that matter?’

I seen this a few months ago, and I think it explains how I feel better then I can:

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Maybe me snapping at them when I get frustrated won’t affect our relationship… but then, maybe it will. Here is how my week went, I wrote an entry for each day at the end of each day before bed;

Sunday July 21 – Today was my first day not yelling/snapping/raising my voice. I wish I could say that we had a great day and that I was successful… but I would be lying. And that isn’t going to accomplish anything. This morning I was all gung ho on the whole challenge, but thanks to lack of sleep (meaning next to no patience with anything) I was a snappy bitch. I was able to bite my tongue when it came to the kids, until Alex continually put his feet on the table at supper time and wouldn’t stop regardless of how many times and ways I asked him too. Then the rest of the day was downhill. I guess once I snapped, I couldn’t stop myself. Tomorrow is another day though. /sigh/

Monday July 22 –  Today was a better day than yesterday. Not perfect by any means. My count still hasn’t started. I snapped at the kids a couple times today, but the good news is I got a good nap in and the afternoon was better than the morning. I am going to keep working on a way to stop myself from snapping. Being tired is not a good  reason to snap at them. Not to mention it’s not fair to them. Another day of feeling guilty for not being as successful as I would like to be. /sigh/ Again, though, tomorrow is another day. Since today was better than yesterday, I’m going to do even better tomorrow! Eventually I’ll get this figured out and the count will start! I decided that when I hit 7 days without snapping/yelling I am going to have cake with the kids!

Tuesday July 23-  I am so so so so so so so excited to say that today finally counts as day 1!!!!!!! I made it through the whole day without snapping, yelling, raising my voice (except when Alex was going to run out into the street when we went for a walk at the park and I needed to get his attention so he would stop running towards it and come back and hold the stroller, but that’s okay yelling, and when he came back I stopped using my loud voice and explained why he needed to stay close) I am so proud of myself for catching myself before I snapped at all, even though I only got 4 hours of sleep last night. It’s an amazing feeling and I can’t wait to hit day 2 tomorrow!

Wednesday July 24-  Day Two!! What an amazing feeling. Who would’ve thought that going two days without snapping at the kids (and my husband) would make me feel so amazing! Another thing that I noticed today was that the boys are starting to listen to me better. I find that I am repeating myself less. I have started approaching how I talk to them a little bit differently, and it’s paying off. What an amazing feeling!

Thursday July 25- Back to zero… I only snapped once, but it was enough that it made me feel bad. Although when I snapped at the boys for fighting, they got the message pretty quick and cut it out, and didn’t fight anymore for the rest of the day. I see that as a plus, even if I have to start counting again. 

Friday July 26– Day 1! Again. I did snap today, but it was at a perfect stranger and she deserved it. No one is going to call my kids brats and not have me say anything about it. We took the kids to a baseball game, where, as you would expect they were very excited and antsy. The woman in front of us told me that my kids were brats and they had no place at a baseball game. My response was very rude and I am not going to post it here.

Saturday July 27– We are back at Day 2! Today we celebrated Christmas in July, and while it was amazingly stressful for me, I managed to keep my cool with the kids and not snap. (Even when Alex was throwing sand at people and driving me crazy!) Go me!

This week wasn’t perfect. But I think I did pretty good considering that it was my first week trying to change what has become a bad habit. Habits are hard to break! Tomorrow marks the beginning of a new week and my goal is to do better than this week. My kids deserve this!

Love, hugs and more to come later!

Lynn

My Second Liebster Award!

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Oh my gosh! I feel so lucky to have been nominated a second time for a Liebster award! This time around I am not going to follow all the rules though. Seeing as I was nominated for this one not too long ago, all of my nominees will be the same people. (I haven’t been too active in searching up new blogs to follow this past week) So first off I am going to send out a huge, huge thank you to Winding Road for the nomination.

I will also answer her 11 questions:

  1. What book are you currently reading? Any good? I am actually not reading anything right now. I just finished rereading the twilight  books (which I really enjoy) And I have been focusing on finishing up a Crocheting project for a friends baby shower. 
  2. What is your favorite chore? Obviously none are fun, but there is always that one that gives great satisfaction. My favorite chore is probably sweeping and mopping. It is quick and easy and yields the most results. (All of a sudden there are no crumbs or dried juice on my floors!)
  3. What song would be the soundtrack to your life? God Bless the Canadian Housewife by SheDaisy. 
  4. What is the first thing you do after you put your child(ren) to bed at night? Breath a sigh of relief 😛 In all actuality, I tidy up the house then I sit down at the computer for a little while before I go to bed too. 
  5. What is your sign and do you think it fits you? I am a Gemini and it is definitely me. 
  6. What is your favorite ice cream flavor? I’m not a big ice cream person. (Being lactose intolerant, it’s self explanatory  but when I do eat ice cream I tend to go for vanilla or chocolate. Or (as when I was pregnant with Zoey, Cotton Candy!) 
  7. Have you ever re-gifted a present and what was it? Ha ha yes. Yes I have. It was a really ugly picture my mil gave me. A friend was  over and expressed her love of it, so I gave it to her saying that I had another one I really wanted to hang instead
  8. Can you hula hoop? I could before I had kids. I can’t say that I have tried recently. 
  9. Describe your last dream hmm. I don’t remember dreaming lately. 
  10. What was your favorite thing to play as a kid? The ground is Lava (you know, when you jump from furniture to furniture without touching the floor) 
  11. Have you ever milked a cow? no I can’t say that I have. 

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That is going to conclude this edition of the award. Simply because (as I said) I don’t have anyone new to nominate, and because I can’t think of 11 random things about me right now! Thanks again to Winding Road for the nomination! 🙂

Love, hugs and more to come later!
Lynn